Thank you!

I am not sure if anyone reads these any longer, but I have made the decision to stop blogging at this time.  I want to thank each of you for your prayers and support along the way!  When I think back to the fact that we made Bethany and Phillip parents, it still doesn't resonate.  It is like I have to pinch myself often.  I appreciate each of your time as you read and shared in the entire experience.  What a difficult, beautiful journey it was.  

Maybe one day we can publish a book about the experience.  Just a thought...after all, it all started with just an offer.

tunes have changed

It is so strange how Meade's teacher doesn't give updates any longer on the app we were supposed to download - it is only once a week now apparently.  I can't imagine that checking or highlighting 8 things really takes up that much time at the end of the day.  It has been a busy week getting ready for her birthday party Saturday.  She took cupcakes to class today and came home with two.  I asked if the teacher ate one or not and she said nope.  Look, lady, just take it and throw it in the trash.  It hurts the kids feelings if you don't take a cupcake for her birthday.  If you're worried about death talk, here's one way to be sensitive to a child!

I'm a little overwhelmed but so excited for this weekend. 

I got an email from the dance place where Meade has class on Wednesday evenings.  It mentioned needing help in the lobby.  I had no idea that when I opened it, it was asking for parents to refrain from cursing in the lobby since there are children always around.  Really?  No fucks given to this, although it probably was me.  I can't think of a time when I cussed yesterday but that means nothing.  Cursing is part of my normal vocabulary and I try to be mindful of little ears around.  There were classes late until after we left, so maybe, just maybe they were talking about someone else?

Right before Christmas, I stopped everyone in the lobby right in the tracks because someone was talking about the Legendary Santa and I offered that the REAL Legendary Santa from the Children's Museum died last year.  True stuff.  You would have thought I walked in naked, belting out Whitney Houston or something.  Everyone shut up, there was one child who's mom covered her ears.  Get real people!  This is life!  If you are teaching that the photo op Santas are the real deal, that is on you.  It's always something!

2 days/2 wins

I didn't see that coming!

Jacob and I both went and toured different daycares yesterday morning.  We liked them both and it is a little relief to know we have options.  By the time I had gotten out of my tour, I had been playing phone tag with a counselor that I left a message with last week.  She is willing to see not just Meade, but BOTH kids, in two weeks!  What?  Is this real?  I don't know but I am taking it as a huge win!

I met with Meade, her teacher, and the lead teacher yesterday afternoon via Zoom.  Not ideal, but I will take it.  I greeted Meade with a big smile and asked how her day was going.  She said good and was smiling back.  I asked her teacher to confirm or tell me the real story, which she would not do because Meade was right there.  That is what this is about, lady!  Get it out in the open!  Let her be accountable for her shitty behavior.  Come on!

The conversation was then led by the lead teacher with mostly information.  Then, the lead teacher turned to "play" with Meade so that the teacher and I could talk without Meade in the mix.  Very counter-productive of the entire reason for the meeting, but I knew I wasn't going to get anywhere fast.  A million more reasons of why Meade isn't a good fit.  Thanks, noted.  Now what?  Well, they are going to send her home with a piece of paper each day with the classroom rules.  Check marks for what she followed and highlights for where we need improvements.  Two weeks to see improvement or then she needs to be removed.  

Meade came home yesterday with four checks and four items highlighted.  I could definitely envision worse.  Today, Meade came home with ALL checks and a big smiley face and a WOW!  See, she CAN do it!  Another HUGE win!  I'll take all I can get at this point and was so happy I started crying and Meade definitely didn't understand that.  Oops.  No school tomorrow, Wednesday, so who knows what Thursday and Friday will bring.