The further along we get, I am trying to get my mind in the right spot so that there is nothing within my control that may create issue.
First, Jacob and I are thinking about putting the kids back in daycare. 10+ weeks in, this shit is stressful. For the first 6 weeks, Jacob was home with the kids. Now, I am trying to do it solo while still putting in approximately 50 hours each week for work. It is miserable and I feel as though I cannot be a really good employee nor a really good parent during all of this. The stress alone opens opportunity for failed conception. If I can alleviate the majority of the stress in my life, it will put us in the best position possible for a positive result, easier pregnancy, and healthy baby.
Second, I am strengthening my faith. God has helped me tremendously throughout life, even moreso throughout this journey. Yet, as the recent struggles have come into play, I have not leaned on Him as much as I should have. I am actively working on restoring my relationship with him so that when I may not understand, I do not lose hope.
Third, I am keeping up the exercise. Each morning, I leave around 430am and walk five miles before work. I want to keep this up as long as I am able as it gets my blood flowing, my head in a good space, and overall ready for the day. I am also trying to not give up on weekend exercise. Even if it isn't five miles a day, any walk is good.
Lastly, and probably most important, I am getting my head around the process thus far and while I have the greatest of expectations, those need to be left at the door. Expectations here, to me, are unnecessary and may create additional heartache. In my own pregnancies, I went in without expectation and I am pleased that I did, as I was not disappointed at the end of the day. While I will not expect any given outcome or result from a test/procedure/etc., my faith and hope has exponentially grown. So, don't think that because I give up expectations I am not still fully committed. I am more positive than ever but don't want to be let down. I will not be allow myself to be discouraged, but will leave tough phases with understanding and enter new phases with renewed strength, hope, faith, and commitment.
Ultimately, we will have a baby. The timing is not ours. We aren't driving down the path. We are on a roller coaster and with every dip and triumph, we will work through them and keep on trucking.