"Because we spend much of our young lives imagining ourselves as parents, it isn't surprising that even the strongest of us let the body's failure become how we define ourselves. But life, which gives us other things to do, tells us otherwise. The feeling of grief subsides; we think through our options and make choices."
I felt almost guilty being pregnant and reading this book, however, it gave me perspective. Perspective to be thankful and truly understand others' struggles with infertility.
Now, it seems to come full circle. My body has become an option to offer someone else the joy of motherhood. If this option is not a viable one, it will have helped the grief subside so that the next option (potentially adoption) can be explored. As I write this, I realize the make up of that word - from the verb adopt, in the form of a noun: ad-option. Another option. Again, full circle. If it doesn't work out with me as their gestational carrier, they can close this chapter and open another, the next one.
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